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For centuries many people have been victimized by gossip. Some say that it is human nature to gossip and although the line between discussion and gossip is thin, I disagree with their consensus. I believe it is a fallacy which many may lean towards; however, a moral and balanced person does not find joy in harming another person.

            We could say that it is a malady that affects only those who lack confidence in their own lives yet then that would include many meek people who harbor no ill to anyone. There isn’t a reason for its execution – only excuses. Let’s look at the definition that Wikipedia has for the word “gossip” and I will add it to the end of this post.

            Words are like bullets in the sense that neither can be retrieved once released and that they can be destructive in nature. Especially when you do not realized you have been hit by them. A person can be unaware of the attack so they are unable to do damage control in a timely manner.

            The best advice I could give to anyone concerning gossip is 1) don’t listen to it unless it is substantiated with fact and only then if knowing it affects you in some form. 2) Don’t talk idly about others and their business. I double that suggestion if it is negative. 3) If you have a problem with someone, address it with that person and not with everyone you can find to listen. 4) Don’t be caddy and superficial. You have to speak of others the way you would want others to speak about you. 5) Remember Karma is a mirror that reflects both good and bad – it always reflects back in some form even if you aren’t aware of it. 6) Don’t try to decide what is best for others by gossiping and trashing someone you know is in their life- respect them enough to believe they can decide for themselves. Don’t insult their intelligence or their judgment.

            Many lives have been altered, attacked and injured by the spiteful, unsubstantiated, mindless dribble that someone has spewed from their mouth. Gossip is a cowardly attack that lacks the integrity of confrontation. What comes out of your mouth reflects on you as a person. Swearing a person to secrecy will not improved the act. Be kind, loving, compassionate and do not sow seeds of discord nor tarnish a person’s reflection in others eyes.

            Foster integrity within yourself by being all you expect others to be. Be loving and positive while reaching out to assist others rather than harming them. This is essential to finding success, happiness and well-being within your own life path.

            Be Happy my friends! Be positive! Laugh and smile often! Treat others with the same respect you wish for yourself and loved ones!

*HAPPY DANCE* – Rhia has just Happy Danced you! Thanks for listening and pass it on ….

Gossip is idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others. It forms one of the oldest and most common means of sharing (unproven) facts and views, but also has a reputation for the introduction of errors and other variations into the information transmitted. The term also carries implications that the news so transmitted (usually) has a personal or trivial nature, as opposed to normal conversation.

In the last decade, gossip has been researched in terms of its evolutionary psychology origins.[1] This has found gossip is an important means by which people can monitor cooperative reputations and so maintain widespread indirect reciprocity.[2] Indirect reciprocity is defined here as “I help you and somebody else helps me”. Gossip has also been identified by Robin Dunbar an evolutionary biologist as aiding social bonding in large groups.[3]

The term is sometimes used to specifically refer to the spreading of dirt and misinformation, as (for example) through excited discussion of scandals. Some newspapers carry “gossip columns” which detail the social and personal lives of celebrities or of élite members of certain communities.

Gossip can serve to:[1]

  • normalize and reinforce moral boundaries in a speech-community
  • foster and build a sense of community with shared interests and information
  • build structures of social accountability
  • further mutual social grooming (like many other uses of language, only more so)
  • provide a mating tool that allows (for example) women to mutually identify socially desirable men and compare notes on which men are better than others.
  • be used as a form of passive aggression, as a tool to isolate and harm others
  • provide a peer-to-peer mechanism for disseminating information in organizations