During the quiet moments, we normally reflect upon our pasts and lament over the mistakes we have made throughout our lives. Many times we replay them in our mind and wonder what we could of done that would have made the outcome right. We spend more time studying and reflecting on our mistakes than most “A” students spend studying for an exam. I would say that even though we filed the first life test, if we have studied it repeatedly and learned from it – we will be less apt to make such a mistake again. In our reflection, we need to have a broader vision of how this event happened and the key factors that could have played into the actual failure.
Let’s use a failed marriage as example one. Did you mistake lust for love? Did you do everything possible to make it work? What were your short comings or mistakes you made that led to its ultimate failure? Were you seeking personal stability or intending to spend your life committed to someone? When you have thought deeply over these questions and tallied your mistakes, sorted through your reasons instead of your excuses you have learned. It shouldn’t stop you from marrying again yet you should have a better understanding of what it takes to make a marriage work.
Example two could be your failure at a job/career. Reviewing it to obtain the root of your dismissal could net you the realization that you didn’t apply yourself, too many absences, inability to get along with co-workers or failure to follow instructions to name a few. The experience shouldn’t make you decide never to work again yet instead the ability to scrutinize the situation and see what you did wrong will assist you in your next job.
Example three is my last because I am sure by now I have given enough scenarios to sculpt my intent. Many people have broken the law in the past and been given enough time to contemplate their mistakes and correct them. The only constructive thing about imprisoning people within our correction system is they have time to think about what they did and learn they want to have a better, more fulfilling life. Criminals that are guilty of lesser crimes than murder, kidnapping or more heinous sexual crimes, have the ability to learn from their mistakes. If given a fresh start, without the stigma of their crimes constantly keeping them from succeeding, they should be able to succeed with the return rate being almost nil.
It is not what a person has done in the past but what they learned from it and who they have become today because of it. Many respected public figures, ministers, and high profile personalities have had their pasts litter with all types of mistakes. Forgiveness, allowing them to rectify their mistakes and grow from them is moral thing to do.
In closing we must remember our own past and the past of those we hold dear and give respect. Mistakes are a common occurrence among humans and unless you are not human then you have made them yourself. We must offer the same courtesies to other people as we would expect for ourselves.
In educational fields, the more classes, tests and successes you have under your belt the more credits you get. With each credit you receive the more prestigious your paperwork and the more people want you in your chosen career. In the school of life, we seem to not apply the same rules although each step is a lesson learned.
Remember this day, this hour and this minute – to forgive the way you would want you and yours to be forgiven. Always look at a person as they are today.